Family questions I expect during the holiday celebrations.
Yes family, you are allowed to ask about school/grades this holiday season. I love school, I’m good at school, I like to talk about things I enjoy.
No family, you are not allowed to ask about work or guilt trip me for not having a job. I work my ass off at school for the future I want, a job comes second to that.
Yes family, you are allowed to ask about my hobbies. Going to the dojo half the week is the biggest thing keeping me going right now. I will talk to the ends of the universe about aikido and self-defense.
No family, you are absolutely not allowed to ask me about boys. You’ve been asking since I was 12, and I’ve always hated it. My value and worth do not lie in my relationship to a man. My goals are in school and in the dojo, not in a romantic relationship. Also, I dislike the assumption that I could only be interested in men. And when I talk about my male friends/roommates, do not raise your eyebrows and say “oh” oh so suggestively. I am capable of just friendships with men, as I always have been.